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Tom Veatch
Flames of inspiration often leave smoke signals behind.From mine, these.
| The Oxytocin Vortex | Implications of hormone science for romantic relationships. Everyone likes oxytocin. But it can mess you up, so know what you're dealing with and be responsible. |
| Non Violent Communication | A summary of Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent
Communication system for effective diplomacy. How to express
yourself in any situation. How to say what you want without making
enemies. How to have a desired influence. If you are in a relationship, learn this. That means you. |
| On Misunderstandings | Misunderstandings bedevil every relationship. But there is a constructive way to handle them. |
| Love According to Temperament | Please pick your next relationship partner to have a compatible temperament. Here's how I think about it. |
| A Theory of Anger | in which the existence of Anger is questioned, and the current standard of care for angry people is critiqued and improved upon. This one is important. |
| Active Listening | How to encourage another person: A step by step breakdown. |
| On Hierarchy and Value | Hierarchy and its emotional opposite, Oneness, are explored. How Jordan Peterson agrees with Karl Marx. Why hierarchy is the compassionate, inclusive solution. The geometry of hierarchy. How dominance hierarchy transmutes into admiration hierarchy, creating communities of shared values. Emotion within social hierarchy. |
| The Logic of Irrational Emotion | Emotion in general, considered evolutionarily and logically. Mathematical notation for the emotional process. Review of N+V Humor Theory using it. Veatch asserts that the process of identifying yourself with an emotionally significant circumstance or role has a binding function whereby the emotional system is bound or required to implement the specific emotion that the system associates with that circumstance or role. That is, identification binds emotion. From this, much follows. Bound, a person harmonizes with others in shared understanding, moral assessment, and feeling, around a shared activity. Bound, a person is not free to experience the moment, the now, the timeless flow, but is instead aware of their status and moral self-assessment. Unbound, wherein identification does not occur, emotional flow states, high performance, spiritual goodness, etc., occur with attention paid to the evolving situation rather than to thinking about how it reflects upon you and tells a story about you. Unbound, the person has access to the unconditioned or irrational emotions of bliss, serenity, transcendence, etc. Veatch's Razor, distinguishing these, is offered. |
| Rental Co-Housing | Features and Benefits of Community Living |
| Fat or Fit? | When Snuggly beats Anorexic |
| The Iron Rule | Asking where you would use the Iron Rule |
| Tom on Quora | Mostly rants about relationships. I have the right; I've failed so often and so badly, I can share what I've learned. |
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